“People don’t know a f*** about sex”

Well-liked and woke Netflix series Sex Education revolves around sex therapy. But, must we all meet an expert to know anything accurate about sex?

By Arantxa Underwood

Photo by Pablo Merchan on Unsplash

The facts indicate that sex is positively associated with life satisfaction and mental health. Yet, a report by Public Health England found that 49% of 25 to 34-year-olds said they lack sexual enjoyment.

Records continue to prove the orgasm gap, as well as the rising underage demand for labial reduction and anal bleaching as girls feel pressure to mimic porn stars. Meanwhile, porn is accountable for the 36% of men aged 18 to 25 unable to get or maintain an erection.

Sex therapy, a talk therapy approach to the treatment of sexual problems, asserts itself the solution. Statistics imply success, except it is seldom accessible through the NHS who can only offer a limited number of sessions.

As a professionally trained partner, Sex Surrogate Lucy Miller says most people are one realisation, rather than sex therapist, away from widespread change.

According to Lucy, ‘10 Ways Of Making Him Love You’, ‘Make Her Squirt,’ or ‘69 Sex Positions That Will Blow Your Mind’ are examples that echo the archaic standards of intimacy we are fed that are unattainable for most. She insists it is not having this awareness that propels all sexual troubles.

“Everyone, experts and amateurs alike, is part of the problem as we are all a by-product of centuries of shaming pleasure through control, religion and ignorance,” says Lucy.

“As a sex therapist,” says Laura Vowels, “I view clients as experts in their own experience. I can help walk alongside clients in their journey, but the journey and the discoveries are still theirs.”

If you have sexual issues but feel financially strained, maybe try therapy without the therapist.